6 Reasons Why Hordes of Educated Women are Becoming SAHMs

This isn’t the 1950’s anymore, the majority of women are earning college degrees. More women attend university than men and 60% of Master’s degrees are being awarded to women. Yet the number of mothers choosing to stay home with their children is rising. This begs the question: why are well-educated women abandoning the workforce for home?

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Cost of Childcare

Childcare in the US is ridiculously expensive. Most childcare will run you about $1000 per child per month! This might be doable for many couples with only one child, but as they have more children it can become an overwhelming burden. If the mother is making less than the cost of childcare it often makes more monetary sense for the mother to stay home.

Uneasiness over Daycare

As a parent leaving your child in the hands of a childcare worker, be it a daycare worker or babysitter is nerve-wracking. They don’t know your child the way you do and they may be juggling the needs of many other children. This was the number one factor in my boyfriend’s insistence that one of us stay home. He had heard too many stories of negligent daycares and more commonly children coming home with bruises (children get bruises by try telling him that about his baby girl).

Parents want to know that their children are safe and being given the utmost care. Who better to trust with your child than your partner?

Education

As the number of SAHM (stay-at-home moms) increase, so are the rates of homeschooled children. The education system in the US is sorely lacking. Teachers are underpaid, classroom sizes are far too large, bullying is rampant, school nutrition is lacking, and common core is unpopular among parents.

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The multitude of advantages that homeschool provides is alluring to many parents. You are in charge of not only the subjects your is covering, but what content from those subjects is emphasized. Personalized learning becomes easy if your child has a learning disability or needs more time in specific subjects. There is a focus on one-on-one time even with multiple children to homeschool. A 1:4 teacher to student ratio is better than 1:35. There are more options for enrichment in the form of field trips and more flexibility in the daily schedule.

This is a topic I am very passionate about and was the most important aspect for me in deciding to stay home.

Breastfeeding & Insufficient Leave

I cannot count the stories I have heard of mothers being forced back to work earlier than they were ready. In the US maternity leave is covered under FMLA (if you’ve worked at your job for a year) for up to 12 weeks. This time is illegal to refuse to any new mother. Yet women feel pressured to return to work early by their bosses or coworkers.

This is particularly paralyzing for a new mother that is trying to learn to breastfeed. After two months I started feeling pressure to return to work but my baby was still having latching issues and was still cluster feeding! I didn’t respond well to a pump at that time due to mastitis issues so I essentially had no stash. If I had returned to work my breastfeeding journey would have ended. I wouldn’t have had enough time during the day to pump enough to feed my baby. For parents that are insistent on breastfeeding this can be reason enough to resign and stay home.

Mothers need extended leave at no risk to their job. Hopefully soon the US will follow suit nearly all other first world countries and do right by mothers.

To Keep a Home

The keeping of a household can become very hard in this incredibly fast-paced modern age with both parents working. Between 40+ hour weeks and transporting the kids to and from daycare and sleeping, what else is there time for?

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Of course many families are able to make this work! However my household began running 100x smoother when I became a SAHM. When we both worked while I was pregnant, I cleaned every hour I was home (nesting to be sure) and could still not keep up with the workload. There were always dishes in the sink and laundry piling up in a corner. The house was usually in disarray. And heck I never got around to grocery shopping properly. Now I am able to monitor finances, buy groceries, and keep a tidy house. I worry about the home and Isaac worries about his job. We both worry about our daughter!

For Love

And there’s also the issue of love. You can plan to work before the baby is born, but something happens when you give birth to that bundle of joy. Your heart opens in a way indescribable to anyone but a fellow parent. You want to be there to experience their joys and sorrows and kiss their boo-boos and cuddle them. I could not imagine spending my days with anyone but my daughter.

Educated & Mothers

We are educated. We are mothers. Being one does not lessen the other. In-face your children will benefit immensely from having such a strong smart woman to learn from and care for them. Carry that knowledge with pride and enjoy every day!

 

 

 

13 Replies to “6 Reasons Why Hordes of Educated Women are Becoming SAHMs”

  1. This is part of the reason that I haven’t tried having kids yet. I have a full time job, but I don’t want to have to go back to work after having kids. I know I won’t care enough to go back, and might hate going back. It’s not that I don’t love my job or anything, or that I don’t have a B.A. and a M.A., it’s just always been a dream of mine to be a stay at home mom.

    1. For me it was kind of the opposite, I loved working so I never imagined wanting to stay home! The plan my whole pregnancy was to work, but as soon as you bring that little bundle home it’s a physical ache to imagine
      leaving them!

    2. Oh how I can relate to this article! Well said! I have a BSN, RN… worked as a labor & delivery nurse before ever having my own kids. My last two deliveries were my own two kiddos. I chose to stay home and raise them mainly because my hubby was active duty Air Force and we moved about every 10-20 months for the first 12 years of our oldest child’s life. I home schooled for one year. It was challenging, yet awesome. Now one is in college and the other is in high school. I kind of accidentally started a home business because we found a whole food nutrition product that helped our son improve his immune system so well that he was able to get off allergy pills and inhalers, which lead me to health coaching and now I get to work from home or anywhere we travel, while still being able to prioritize family and life around a work that I am passionate about. I felt extremely blessed to be a SAHM. I just wished I knew that I could also have perused a passionate career from home in the earlier years. The finacial aspect would have been so helpful. But I do believe the Lord brings to us what we need, exactly when we need it. Blessings to all you AMAZINGLY STRONG SMART LOVING MOMMAS! ❤️

      1. Well I have to say thank you for being a Labor & Delivery nurse! The nurse that helped me deliver my baby was a godsend, she was literally the nicest, sweetest, and most supportive nurse. I think about her impact on my birth often.
        It is so important to prioritize family if you have the financial means! I agree I am so fortunate to be able to stay home.

  2. I’m not a mom yet, but this is definitely something that I’ve been hearing more and more about. The cost of child care and the spread of germs/unqualified people working in daycares or people working their hardest making $8 an hour…all of it is eye opening. I’m hoping women will have more freedom in the future to do what they want with the growth of moms working from home.

    1. Right? The modern internet age has given families that otherwise HAD to have both parents working to make it financially, another option. There are so many avenues for women to work-from-home now, it’s very empowering. And I think ultimately very positive for children of the new generation.

  3. Yes to everything in this post! I am a college grad and new mama. I worked at a corporate job before having my daughter and figured I would be going back afterwards. While pregnant we looked into daycares, and I make much better than minimum wage, but I would still be working just to cover childcare!
    Once my daughter was born, I knew I didn’t want to leave her, but I also wanted to have some type of fulfillment career wise, so I became a Mamapreneur. I get to spend all day with my little girl and work on my business while she is sleeping or playing by herself. Now I actually make money instead of working just to afford childcare!

    1. Yep! When income of a mother nearly matches the cost of childcare it just makes so much to be there for you baby and work on your hustles at home!

  4. All you points are valid. This last summer a friend of my watched three boys for 700.00 a month. Their dad was going to put them in child care and it was going to cost him 300.00 a week, plus other field trip expenses, and he is a single 35yr old dad living with his mom.

    Prices keep going up but people’s incomes stay the same or worse go down.

    1. YES I do feel so much for single parents. The cost of childcare is unseemly and they hardly have the option to stay home, someone has to provide.
      I’m all for wage increases, it’s sorely needed.

  5. All of this! Love the lines: “We are educated. We are mothers. Being one does not lessen the other.”
    I have a Master’s plus certificated to be a K-12 administrator and I have chosen to take a pause on this career trajectory to work from home for a non-profit for so many of the reasons you described above, but I think your “for love” reason hits home the most for me. People often wonder if I get bored hanging out with a baby all day and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I get to be here for all of the little moments and milestones and love on my baby.

    1. Nicolle,
      Thank you so much I am so happy to hear the post resonated with you! My whole life plan was to go to graduate school, my entire undergraduate career I worked so hard doing research and getting ready.

      But having your baby causes a whole paradigm shift. It’s crazy and I love it.

  6. It is so incredibly hard to leave your little and go back to work. I had every intention of quitting but wasn’t able to work out a schedule where I can work from home too.

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